When You Stop People Pleasing: What Happens Next.
- 2 days ago
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Nobody Talks About What You Lose When You Stop People Pleasing
When I recognised the people pleaser in me, I pulled back. I stopped overgiving, did the work and protected my energy, but what came next wasn’t relief. It was grief.
Stopping people pleasing changes how you relate to others and yourself. It often involves setting boundaries, reducing overgiving, and breaking patterns of approval-seeking behaviour. What’s less discussed is what happens after that shift.
Once I started to do the work, I became steadily aware of the time spent living around other people instead of by myself. Years of small decisions bent me in the wrong direction.
